Birds of a Feather.....

Hello Loves! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. I know it was full of football and reality shows. I would talk about football but this is not a sports blog, and I really did not find a great life lesson to address so the reality shows are to the rescue. "Lala's full court wedding" premiered this past Sunday. The episode was okay, but for all you who really know me, know I enjoyed it because a certain guest was on the Show. That's right...the Multi-talented beautiful Tyrese grace our presence and drop some important knowledge at the same time. He asked LaLa why she did not hang out with any married women. He was explaining to her that she needed to expand her friend list to include married women. Know her single friend Ciara disagrees but I think Tyrese was just making the age old point that Birds of a feather flock together. People have always judge people not just by their actions, but the company they keep also. She wants to be a happy married couple, however she does not have any happy married couples in her circle. You need to know people that have been through what you are going through so they can give you advice on what works and what does not works. Sorry Ciara but you and Kim (and Trina) can not give this first hand experience advice. Tyrese was not saying get rid of your single friends, he was saying get some married ones. This does not just apply for just married and single people. This applies to all situations. If you are in a relationship do not get all your advice from your single friend, if you are in debt do not get all your advice from your broke friends, if you are in school do not get all your advice from your friends who have not been in a class room. Surround yourself with people that have been successful at the very thing you are trying to accomplish. We tend to surround ourselves with likeminded people, because we want them to agree with us but we all need that friend that's going to give us the Messy truth. I'm not saying that to dumb all your loyal friends that's been with you since the begging just because they are not where you want to be, but I am saying expand your network to include those who will help you and uplift you. If you want better, surround yourself will better people.....I'm just keeping it 100.

Rules: when is it time to change them?

Good morning readers! Hope all is well with you all today. For those who know me well know I love sports, epscially Football. I am also a single southern sister who is very oldfashion. Now one may wonder what these two things have in common, but beleive it or not there is a lot in common. The Common link is rules. There are rules in every game (even the game of dating/love). However with every set of rules, there is also the personal decision if we should follow them or not. Also if there rules should be changed overtime. Now for all my male readers and female football fan readers, we all seen or heard about the Redskins v. Cowboys game. The game was decided based on age old rules in the NFL. The first rule is that a player can not illegally hold another player on the other team. th second rule is that if the clock run out, we will not give the seconds back in favor of the ill acting team because of a penalty. The final rule is that a penalty can be called even if the game is technically over. All these rules seem fine until there is a situation last night were the whole game was deiced on a holding penalty because the clock ran out. Now I am sure there are cowboy fans and (redskins haters) that think the rules need to be change now. As I am sure the redskins are saying that rules are there for a purpose and this is not a new rule so there are no excuses. Although I do not like McNabb (for my own personal reasons) and i hate the cowboys (for my own personal reasons) I have to agree with the redskins side. I mean rules are there and when everyone knows the rules, there is no excuse for you breaking them. The rules serve a good purpose, and if they did not they would have been changed. Furthermore, just because now one of the biggest (richest) team in the NFL has been negatively affected by the rule that is not a reason to change them. Speaking of age old rules. I digress to jersey shore. Angelina on jersey shore basically broke the age old rule. She slept with the boy that openly disrespected her, however the guy that was actively pursuing her (taking her on dates, calling her, giving her gifts) she keeps playing to the left. Now we all like bad boys, but come on don't be dumb. You should not give the person that is clearly playing you more attention then the guy that actually wants to be with you. The rule of treat people the way you want to be treated is the golden rule for a reason....it still applies. This is one rule that should always be followed and never changed. If you want a guy to treat you great, then treat him that way. If you do him wrong....don't be surprise when a guy does you wrong. Karma is not always a BITCH.....I'm just keeping it 100!

Dark Obsession

Good Morning Loves! So I know that everyone did not spend their times watching MTV last night. Because yesterday was also the day for NFL and HBO show finales. However, this post will focus on an observation made during my viewing of the VMAs. Will.I.Am preformed however, his preformace was not worth talking about....its his costume. He showed up at the VMAs with BLACKFACE, and he did not just preformed in Blackface, he watched the show in the costume. Now yes we all know that music and preformace is an expression of art, and yes if you do not know who WIll.I.AM is he is Black, however this is unacceptable. Blackface is not a joke or a expression of art. Blackface is a representation of our hurtful pass. Our ancestors have worked hard for every race to be able to have a career in the arts and be their own representation. What is the message that Will is trying to give. Because even in the Black face, it did not enhance his looks or his performance, so their was no point for his stupid decision to come in black face. Furthermore, will.i.am is not the only one that showed up to the VMAs shades darker. Snooki from Jersey Show is usually a shade of Orange, but last night she was actually a shade of brown. She could have passed for a Latino or black person if she wanted to. I do not understand why must she be so tan. Yes Black is beautiful. But one must realized that they are beautiful too. Once you love yourself, everyone else will love you. Its funny how people talk about Minority celebs using bleaching products to make them selves lighter. But in reality, Hollywood has a Dark obsession. Many Hollywood celebs tan at least four times a week. then we have African Americans that are so removed form their history, that they do not even see the issues that arise with wearing black face to an award show for the sole purpose of being different in their performance. My advice to both types of people are, Be your self and let your works define you, and not your Dark Obsession, because its not helping you its hurting you.....I'm just keeping it 100......

True Greatness

Sorry for the delay! Due to some personal events in my life I was unable to grace you all with the Messy Truth. But, I'm back! And today's topic deals with the latest news about celebrity couples relationships not being as Peachy as they seem. Matt Barnes (of the LA Lakers) and Gloria Govan, his ex-fiance (baby mother and live in girlfriend) perfect bubble was burst, when police showed up at their house due to an incomplete 911 call. Now any one who have seen at least one episode of Basket Ball wives, knows that Gloria was trying to have this facade that her and Matt had this perfect relationship and she was so much better than the other cast (can not say wives, because only one other cast mate is a Wife). And although she is denying that he hit her....the proof is in the pudding and if no one had bruises the police would not have taken him down. She still trying to keep up the lie....lol (silly hoe...tricks (lies/games) are for kids). Floyd Mayweather is also in a similar situation. His baby mother has the police out looking for him now because of domestic violence. He was all on the CHilli show trying to look like the perfect guy. I know Chilli is glad he did not become "What Chiili wants." Also Hedi Pratt and Spencer Pratt are also calling a quits after years of her defending him and saying that they had a great relationship and everybody else was just insane. Now she is worried about him having a tell-all book and sex tape released. And who could forget the Woods and Bullock scandals. With all that said the Messy Truth is stop lying and tell the truth. Every relationship has problems, but when you lie and try to act like Perfect Patty and Bre Van Der Kamp, when the truth comes to light.....all hell will breaks loose. I am a strong believe of what goes on behind closed doors should stay behind closed doors, but there is a HUGE difference between discretion and deceiving. I'm not saying tell everyone you having problems, but please do not be bragging how great your man is when he beating y'all fighting like a Vegas Pay per View Match. Also Do not be so caught up in you perfect facade that you can not pick up the settle signs of cheating that your man or woman is giving out. Because in the end YOU look stupid. Sandra, Elin, and Hedi all tried to act like they didn't know their man was cheating. I mean men are slick, but come on give me a break. Sandra you got with him while he was married, so I know you know how he acts when he cheating. Elin, you have nanny's so you were not so into your children or Job (because you had none), that you could not notice that Woods was not answering the phone late at night. And Hedi you had video footage proof so again I day you all look Stupid! Also Gloria and who every Floyd baby mama name is......you would not look so stupid if you did not try so hard to make this man look so great that you yourself have believed this lie. People (this includes non-celebrities), be real, No relationship is perfect. But if you stay true you will be able to recognize the problems and deal with them. If you can deal with them behind close doors then great, because once they come out there will be more issues added. So my advice to all people that are in some type of relationships (this includes casual relationships) Stop trying to Appear Great and work on Being Great.....and I'm just keeping it 100!